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When Everything Goes Grey

For the heaviness that’s hard to explain — and hard to lift alone.

A system that has powered down can, slowly and gently, be brought back — without anyone rushing you toward cheerfulness you don’t feel.

When
Weekends · TBD
Length
Six weeks · 90 min
Circle
A small closed group
For
Adults living with depression
Language
English · Ukrainian · Russian
Where
182 Tamarack Circle, Skillman, NJ 08558

It isn’t always sadness. Sometimes it’s just grey — a heaviness, a flatness, a sense of going through the motions of a life you can’t quite feel anymore. Nothing may even be obviously wrong, which somehow makes it worse: if you can’t point to a reason, you’re left thinking you should just be able to snap out of it. You can’t. And it isn’t laziness, or weakness, or a failure of will.

Where anxiety is a nervous system stuck on, this is a nervous system that has gone the other way — shut down, gone quiet, pulled the colour out of things to protect you from a weight that felt like too much.

That’s what depression often is. This is a small, supportive group for adults living with low-grade to moderate depression — the heaviness, the numbness, the fog, the flat mornings. Held with real care and none of the “just think positive.” You’ll come to understand what depression actually is in the body, practice the small movements that gently flicker the system back on, and meet the harsh inner critic and the shut-down, numb part of you with compassion instead of shame. A private conversation comes first, so we can make sure a group is the right fit and the right moment for you.

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The work, in five movements

Over six evenings, among a few people who understand, we move through it gently and in order.

Movement
One

Naming the weight

What depression really is, so it stops being a private failing and starts being something you can work with.
Movement
Two

Small movements

The tiny, doable actions that shift the ground a little — without pressure to feel better on command.
Movement
Three

The heavy mind and the fog

Flatness and self-blame, met with self-compassion instead of more criticism.
Movement
Four

The critic and the collapse

Meeting the harsh voice and the numb, shut-down part gently. This is the heart of it.
Movement
Five

Reaching back and finding the ground

How the heaviness isolates, small ways of reconnecting, and rebuilding a sense of ground under your feet.
How it works

Six sessions (sometimes eight), ninety minutes each, in a small closed group. Held in English, Ukrainian, or Russian.

Because this is tender and sometimes heavy work, it begins with a private conversation before it starts — so we can make sure a group is the right fit and the right moment for you, and that you have the level of support you need. If something else would serve you better first, I’ll help you find it.

If you’re in crisis

If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, a group isn’t the right first step — please reach out directly, or contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, so you can get the right support now.

How payment works
$65 per person, per session
Six weeks · paid in full at enrollment

Groups run out-of-network and privately. Paying in full at enrollment holds your place for the whole series — and lets the group form as a stable, closed circle: the same people, from beginning to end.

Refunds

A full refund if you withdraw before the first session. In the first two weeks, a prorated refund or a credit toward a future group. Once the group has formed, the remaining sessions aren’t refundable — the circle was built around your place in it — but if something serious comes up, talk to me and we’ll find a fair way through.

Superbill

A superbill is available for possible partial reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits. Whether a group qualifies depends on its nature, so it’s best to check with your insurance company.

To begin — a short private conversation

If you’ve been carrying a greyness you can’t quite explain, going through the motions and ashamed you can’t just lift it — you’re exactly who this is for, and you don’t have to carry it alone.

Contact to begin
alesia@ivycounselinggroup.com (609) 688-8300
Where we meet 182 Tamarack Circle, Skillman, NJ 08558