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What’s Underneath

Anger is a second emotion. Nobody ever taught you the first one.

An eight-week group for men — anger, pressure, shutdown, and what’s underneath all of it.

When
Weekends · TBD
Length
Eight weeks · 90 min
For
Men
Language
English · Ukrainian · Russian
Where
182 Tamarack Circle, Skillman, NJ 08558

Most men arrive for a concrete problem — the temper, the pressure, the going-quiet that their partner keeps naming. Underneath it is usually a rulebook you were handed young: don’t cry, don’t need, don’t ask, handle it.

Anger is a second emotion. Nobody ever taught you the first one — and this is eight weeks of learning it, on your own terms.

The rulebook worked, which is why it’s hard to put down. We start with what it’s costing you, trace anger back to what’s under it, and make room for the parts you were told to keep out of sight — so more of you gets to show up, on your own terms.

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The eight weeks

From why you’re here to your own terms.

Week
1

Why you’re here

Not what’s wrong with men. What it’s costing you.
Practice
One sentence each. Nobody fixes anybody.
Week
2

The rulebook

Don’t cry, don’t need, don’t ask, handle it. It did work — that’s why it’s hard to put down.
Practice
Where you got yours.
Week
3

Anger, and what’s under it

The one permitted emotion, so everything routes through it. Fear arrives as rage. Shame arrives as rage.
Practice
Tracing one reaction back.
Week
4

Your body knows first

Jaw, hands, the ten seconds before.
Practice
Your pause script.
Week
5

The part that goes quiet

Your partner calls it stonewalling. From the inside it feels like nothing.
Practice
Naming it from the inside.
Week
6

Provision as love

You worked, you paid, you showed up. It may never have been received as love.
Practice
Saying it plainly.
Week
7

The one you don’t show

The part told he was weak — and the part that’s guarded him since.
Practice
Approaching. Not opening.
Week
8

Your own terms

Not the rulebook. Not its opposite. Yours.
Practice
Yours to keep.
How payment works
$65 per person, per session
Paid in full at enrollment

Groups run out-of-network and privately. Paying in full at enrollment holds your place for the whole series — and lets the group form as a stable, closed circle: the same people, from beginning to end.

Refunds

A full refund if you withdraw before the first session. In the first two weeks, a prorated refund or a credit toward a future group. Once the group has formed, the remaining sessions aren’t refundable — the circle was built around your place in it — but if something serious comes up, talk to me and we’ll find a fair way through.

Superbill

A superbill is available for possible partial reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits. Whether a group qualifies depends on its nature, so it’s best to check with your insurance company.

Reserve your spot

Seats are limited to keep the group small and safe. Reach out — we’ll find out together whether this is the right next step for you, and there’s no pressure either way.

Contact to reserve
alesia@ivycounselinggroup.com (609) 688-8300
Where we meet 182 Tamarack Circle, Skillman, NJ 08558