For couples staying — and trying to rebuild — after an affair.
Slow, honest work, in the company of a few other couples doing the same hard thing. It is possible, and you don’t have to do it alone.
An affair doesn’t just break trust. It breaks the story you thought you were living in — the sense that you knew your marriage, knew your partner, knew what was real. In the weeks and months after, the injured partner often feels something closer to trauma than sadness: intrusive images, the need to know, a mind that won’t rest, days that swing from rage to numbness to grief. The involved partner is often drowning too — in shame, in not knowing how to make it right, in wondering whether it ever can be.
What follows is a small, closed group for couples rebuilding after an affair has been disclosed and ended, with both partners choosing to stay and try. It’s grounded in the recognized arc of affair recovery: first facing what happened honestly, then rebuilding safety and trust, then — only then — building something new. You don’t rush past the wound, and you don’t live in it forever. That sequence is the work.
Over eight weeks, in the company of a few other couples, we move through three movements — in order, without rushing.
The group runs over eight weeks, ninety minutes each, with just three or four couples — a deliberately small, protected circle, because this material asks for safety above all. It is never a place to recount the affair in detail; that would only re-injure everyone in the room. It’s a place to do the work of rebuilding, held with real clinical care.
Because it holds acutely painful and private experiences, it begins with a separate, private conversation with each couple before it starts — so I can make sure the group is the right fit and the right moment, and that both of you are ready for it. If something else would serve you better first, I’ll help you find it.
This one matters more than most. The wrong moment can be unsafe — for you and for the circle — so it’s worth being plain.
The affair has ended, it’s been disclosed, and both partners want to try to rebuild. You’re not looking to erase what happened — you’re looking to face it together, with help, and see what can be built on the other side.
The affair is still ongoing, if one partner hasn’t yet decided whether to stay, or where there’s abuse or a safety concern. Those situations need individual or couples work first.
That isn’t a promise, and it isn’t quick. But the couples who make it are usually not the ones who felt the least pain. They’re the ones who faced it, together, with help. That’s what this group is for.
Groups run out-of-network and privately. Paying in full at enrollment holds your place for the whole series — and lets the group form as a stable, closed circle: the same people, from beginning to end.
A full refund if you withdraw before the first session. In the first two weeks, a prorated refund or a credit toward a future group. Once the group has formed, the remaining sessions aren’t refundable — the circle was built around your place in it — but if something serious comes up, talk to me and we’ll find a fair way through.
A superbill is available for possible partial reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits. Whether a group qualifies depends on its nature, so it’s best to check with your insurance company.
This group starts with a separate, private conversation with each couple — no forms to fill in first, and no pressure either way. Reach out, and we’ll find out together whether this is the right next step for you both.